You know what they say about assumptions…
They make an ass out of you and me. Situationships are usually a result of assumptions. It’s not a relationship, but it’s more than a friendship. You can have two people who are comfortable with each other, but they won’t talk about the hard stuff. The defining the relationship, or “DTR” never happens as weeks and months go by. This is a surefire way for one or both parties to get hurt.
This is my current situation as of 10/3/19. It’s not a blast. And it will be even less fun after the inevitable DTR. The way things are going, the DTR is going to end the situationship. A name that I’ve seen on my phone for the last four months won’t be there anymore.
It is especially hard when the person you’re trying to get to know and get close to is a genuinely nice person, and the interest is mutual. I wanted so badly for things to work out for the two of us. But as each day passes I realize that I’m trying to force something that isn’t there. It’s mentally exhausting and it’s not fair for either of us to continue.
We’re just not each other’s person.
It’s one thing to be hopeful, to give people a fair chance to put their best foot forward. However, it is important to realize when it’s time to walk away. I think the 3-date rule is a good guideline to work with. First dates are usually always a little awkward. By the second date you learn more about each other and the nerves settle down. It’s less of an interview and more of a conversation. But GIRL. If he’s not showing any signs of being super motivated to plan date #3, be prepared to drop him.
If you make it to date number three and he’s not pulling his phone out to make more plans, BYEEEE. Watch out for excuses. Even if he works 12 hours a day, there are still a couple hours to share dinner with during the week. If he just wants something fun to do on the weekends, you’ll know soon enough.
If you have a great first date, tell me about it! If you have first date horror stories, share them too! Everyone loves a funny first-date story.